What do you look for in a girl/guy? This should be good, meh heh. Also, which Anime..

[cbwing0]

Wow...I'm the only one that said swordfighting?

It would be nice if I met a girl that knew some martial arts so that we could help each other in our arts (and spar if she's good enough ). Swordfighting would be especially fun, although I can do that without a wife.

[Destroyer2000]

Heh, but you'd always have someone to fight with if you had a wife. Like I said, I'd like someone like Misao from RK because she's energetic and has the attitude I like. All the other Anime girls I know of are a bit mushy like.

[cbwing0]

That's true, although Misao can't actually fight, so you might want to pick someone else.

[Ashley]

You know we had a discussion about this on my youth group's Purity Weekend Retreat (high school girls only)...they made us write a list, actually, of the qualities we wanted in a mate. First you were to start off with physical attributes you like (i.e. mine were: tall, dark haired, green or deep blue eyes, slim but muscular) then move on to more serious traits. I think, from the top of my head, my list included:
* gentle and loving
* yet firm and strong (physically and spiritually); someone who would protect me always and help me to weather the harder times by example. Not some emotional cry baby. Physically, I want to feel like I don't have to be afraid if someone gets rough with me because he can take them on.
* Obviously of the same kind of beliefs and values as I am: more conservative than your average Joe.
* Someone who can make me laugh, with similiar interests (or at least open to mine)
* A supportive shoulder. I am prone to bottling up my feelings emotionally until the pressure is too much for me to take...I need my better self to be able to set aside time to come talk to me and help sort out through my day's problems. Then I'll do the same for him. Basically someone who's not afraid of letting me vent.
* Stronger Christian than me, preferabbly, and one who deeply loves the Lord. I want a husband who will not be afraid to set aside time for family prayers, or read to our children from the bible.
* Compassionate and sympathetic, especially to our kids if we have any
* Realizes his way is not the only way
* This is a very personal one: able to sit down and talk. My own father has a very hard time listening to any point of view but his own. Sure I'll be submissive most of the time, but I would like to feel my opinion is valued and cherished as his EQUAL.
* Romantic, but not to the extreme. Just a touch. I love little, sappy things, like nicknames or sappy little notes for no reason...hopefully mr. right for me won't be embarrased by any of those things

Overall, I guess the tying trait is that he would value me and not take me for granted; treat me as I am his equal and his partner, not his bedmate. Am I probably shooting too high? Maybe. I guess my ultimate goal is to marry better than my father, as cold as that sounds. But I think a gentlemen who truly cherishes his wife and values her opinions and intelligence really does exist out there.

[Destroyer2000]

I am prone to bottling up my feelings emotionally...

So am I. I don't exactly bottle them up, I just never let on to how I feel. Most people around me really have no idea whether I'm happy or sad or what. So may say that's a psycological disorder, but oh well, I'll just be disordered. I prefer to live like that, for now atleast. It helps me deal with those idiots at school better. Meh...as for most of them with their gf/bf mess, I know they won't stay together till they're married, so why even go out? The girl I have my first date with is the one I'll spend the rest of my life with. I'll make sure of that. I'm not all jumpy-jumpy to get a girlfriend so I can claim I've had one. I see attractive girls, think I like them, then just drive any feelings down. It's easy, once you get used to it, especially if you have a strong willpower.

Also, MyhhrLynn, I think that's your name...did you make this pic? http://crystal-showers.com/battousai/misc_wallpapercontest.shtml

I found it on a site.

[Mave]

I want my man to:

1) make me feel comfortable with myself "You're fine the way you are"
2) and yet make me want to be a better person for him
3) communicates well, able to share anything ranging from deep philosophies to silly jokes
4) enjoys a healthy relationship with others 'not clingy'
5) cultivate TRUST and respect in the relationship
6) be my spiritual leader

[firestorm]

wow ash that's deep (wanna get a bite to eat later jk jk)

Here's how I figure it:

400% in total:
200% christian
75%personality
75% looks
25% common grounds
25% interests

and if I were to date an anime girl it would be the girl from tenshi in tokyo (is that how you say it) not any of the girls that lived with him in the last saga but the one who helps him get used to life in Tokyo, especially with those eyes that are a beautiful shade of green, I think those are the most beautiful eyes in all of anime. yeah she's hot

[Destroyer2000]

Well, yes, I would want one that wuld be happy with the relationship. I'd much rather go up on a mountain top on a moonlit night and just spend time together than do what the 'popular' thing ia to do these days.

[Htom Sirveaux]

I was just in discussion in a secular forum about this topic not long ago (I'm laying off that one now though, there's just too much to look past). Anyway, I was the only person in the thread who was of the opinion that
A.The object of one's affection should be treated with utmost dignity, purity, and respect (for this reason, some seemed to mistake my Christian beliefs for those of, like, a Quaker or something.
B. A relationship should be the way God intends it to be and not by our own rules and standards alone (mention God in a secular thread and they'll waste no time tearing you to shreds, I guarantee it).
C. Chivalry is not dead (one guy actually responded to this by saying "Chivalry isn't dead, it's just bull----).
Now you see why I'm laying off that one.

[Fsiphskilm]

Uhm, I should tell you this now. I'm extremely specific, If I don't have it my way, the perfect match, then I don't want it at all. All or Nothing.

• Deepness, Her eyes have to have fealing, They have to sink into her soul like a well. When I look into them I want to be able to see everything about her, the way she feals, her mood, her preference.
  
• Faithfull, not in doubt, I want her to trust God of course. I want her to be strong and not get rattled by little things, but stand firm and bold. Yet be understanding, Motavative, and inspirational.
  
• Femanine, with curves full, sleek and soothing to the mind, like art, Angelic but raging with passion and strenght. Telling the world that her spirit is as strong as any man's. But hiding it in a passionate vessel.
  
• I want her to want to be equal. Not act like the average little house wife, but to act like my other half. To feal complete when we touch, to love me, challenge me, trust me, and have faith in me. She should know I would treat her equally (I'm very big on women's rights).
  
• To want to be held, to feal comfortable with touches and being close. But also to relax and show unique'ness. To want to be pleased. To want it her way, but not to show off when she gets it, being modest rather than acting spoiled.
  
• Being submissive, but also equally wanting submission to her.
  
• Emotional, not cold hearted, but open and showing fealing. And a high expectation of fealing shown back to her.
  
• Loyalty, a very loyal wife. One who keeps her vows and charishes her ring.
  
• Sexual, but acknowleging that's not the purpose of being together. I myself am very sexual but I beleive in passion and love and Not just 5 min. of lust. Quality over quantity. And being able to express emotion and fealing through delicate touch, taking your time to express what you feal, and never rushing, but enjoying what's there, what God created to express love. I stress that I'm the type of person that cares more about pleasing others rather than myslelf. If she's asks me to put on a dog collar, I shall do it without questioning her. Equally submissive is what I'm looking for.
  
• Romatic? Instead of little things like holding hands at the store, I'd rather have her and I be seen as a whole. Two unseperable people who make one image.

All that will never happen, there's work to do. Now's the time for salvation. After the end of world when eden returns to earth I know I'll find her. but for now I'm not expecting anything.

[Kisa]

Hmmm, well lets see what do I want in a guy . . .

Strong Christian, Honest, Loyal, Funny, Kind, Determined(does best in anything they do), same intrests (anime, video games, God, sports, outdoors, ect . . .), same views (life, politics, ect. . .), serious when it counts, tall (I am and alot of guys I think are afraid of me because I am *sniff*), good looking (hey why not?!), neat and clean, easy to please/ laid back, I'm modest so I hate guys who like the girls who don't dress properly!, . . .

Can't think of anymore right now . . .but that's basically it. ^_^

For anime guys, off the top of my head, I could see myself with someone like Vash or Kenshin. (who couldn't?! they're awesome!) ^_^

[uc pseudonym]

First off, I wince, and I'm not going to say why. None of you did anything bad/wrong/incorrect though.

"*almost* laughed, which says something"??? oniichan, do u ever honestly laugh that often? you need to laugh more! we need to have a contest or something for "who can make uc psuedonym actually laugh"!!

Hey. I make a practice to laugh at least once a year. So there.

I laugh when something is funny. My standards of humor are just rather high. Take a quality humorist like Dave Barry and I will laugh. Or my sister and I when we're not in the most serious of moods.

[Nu-En-Jin]

A.The object of one's affection should be treated with utmost dignity, purity, and respect (for this reason, some seemed to mistake my Christian beliefs for those of, like, a Quaker or something.
B. A relationship should be the way God intends it to be and not by our own rules and standards alone (mention God in a secular thread and they'll waste no time tearing you to shreds, I guarantee it).
C. Chivalry is not dead (one guy actually responded to this by saying "Chivalry isn't dead, it's just bull----).

BRA- to the -VO.

"/em claps his hands at <t>"

[Retten]

[list][*]Deepness, Her eyes have to have fealing, They have to sink into her soul like a well. When I look into them I want to be able to see everything about her, the way she feals, her mood, her preference.

Ah I knew I forgot somthing on my list the eyes I a second what you said. There is just somthing special about the eyes at least to me anyway.

[cbwing0]

There is just somthing special about the eyes at least to me anyway.

I think it's pretty universal...humans are visual creatures, after all.

[Michael]

Let's see:

} Must be able to cook.
} Must be able to make love.
} Hasn't spent the last ten years in a penitentuary.
And must be a christian.

[Retten]

} Hasn't spent the last ten years in a penitentuary.

Yeah thats a good one!

[Locke]

at least shel have a six pack!

[Michael]

You never know.........

[Shinja]

well these are the things i wish to find in a woman,

~She must be a strong christian, some one who'd be able to give everything up for God in an instant.
~She must carry a gun and be very knowlage able with its use.
~She should probably be good at organisation cause, i use the pile system,
~and itd be cool if she didnt mind being poor, i can promise poverty, but i cant promise wealth.

hmm i really dont have a lot of specifics, i cant even imagine her in my mind. mostly cause there have been many girls ive liked and i could never understand why, mostly i just want someone i can care for i guess, and who truely loves me

As you wish.

[Azier the Swordsman]

Uhm, I should tell you this now. I'm extremely specific, If I don't have it my way, the perfect match, then I don't want it at all. All or Nothing.

• Deepness, Her eyes have to have fealing, They have to sink into her soul like a well. When I look into them I want to be able to see everything about her, the way she feals, her mood, her preference.
  
• Faithfull, not in doubt, I want her to trust God of course. I want her to be strong and not get rattled by little things, but stand firm and bold. Yet be understanding, Motavative, and inspirational.
  
• Femanine, with curves full, sleek and soothing to the mind, like art, Angelic but raging with passion and strenght. Telling the world that her spirit is as strong as any man's. But hiding it in a passionate vessel.
  
• I want her to want to be equal. Not act like the average little house wife, but to act like my other half. To feal complete when we touch, to love me, challenge me, trust me, and have faith in me. She should know I would treat her equally (I'm very big on women's rights).
  
• To want to be held, to feal comfortable with touches and being close. But also to relax and show unique'ness. To want to be pleased. To want it her way, but not to show off when she gets it, being modest rather than acting spoiled.
  
• Being submissive, but also equally wanting submission to her.
  
• Emotional, not cold hearted, but open and showing fealing. And a high expectation of fealing shown back to her.
  
• Loyalty, a very loyal wife. One who keeps her vows and charishes her ring.
  
• Sexual, but acknowleging that's not the purpose of being together. I myself am very sexual but I beleive in passion and love and Not just 5 min. of lust. Quality over quantity. And being able to express emotion and fealing through delicate touch, taking your time to express what you feal, and never rushing, but enjoying what's there, what God created to express love. I stress that I'm the type of person that cares more about pleasing others rather than myslelf. If she's asks me to put on a dog collar, I shall do it without questioning her. Equally submissive is what I'm looking for.
  
• Romatic? Instead of little things like holding hands at the store, I'd rather have her and I be seen as a whole. Two unseperable people who make one image.

All that will never happen, there's work to do. Now's the time for salvation. After the end of world when eden returns to earth I know I'll find her. but for now I'm not expecting anything.

Wow... that's pretty specific...

As for me:

Most important qualities:
Christian
Pretty
Can put up with me.

Prefered qualities; however not all that important:
Similar interests
Blond hair
Blue eyes
Bilinguial

[That Dude]

Hmm...

She should be a lot like the Proverbs 31 description.
Understands me
Is patient
Doesn't mind cleaning up


Well I could put up lot's more but don't have the time.

[Taslin_Jewel]

I may be fifteen, but I feel like I'm only six when it comes to dating/soulmates. But here's what I think he would need:

1) He would need to like me for who I am, not for how I look. That's very important.

2) He needs to be mature (there's goes most boys my age for a few years....)

3) He needs to be open about his feelings, and take me seriously.

Those are my only requirements. Like I said, I have about as much experience as a six-year-old....

[ice122985]

I may be fifteen, but I feel like I'm only six when it comes to dating/soulmates. But here's what I think he would need:

1) He would need to like me for who I am, not for how I look. That's very important.

2) He needs to be mature (there's goes most boys my age for a few years....)

3) He needs to be open about his feelings, and take me seriously.

Those are my only requirements. Like I said, I have about as much experience as a six-year-old....

In reply to your post, that makes two of us. But i guess what i am looking for in my significant other are these qualities:

1. Hardcore Christian- she's mature and knows her Bible
2. Practicing Disciple - not only knows the Bible, but practices it.
3. Similar beliefs, opinions. makes future life easier.
4. likes me. this one will be hard to find.

I hope to God i am ready when i find her.

[Destroyer2000]

I'm just going to redo mine, as it was a little incomplete. (Not in order of importance)

1. Christian (Most important)
2. Cute
3. Similiar interests
4. Not scared to swordfight.
5. As people said before, a girl with eyes. I dunno why, but some people's eyes seem to make it as if you can see into their heart through them.
6. Heh, again, as said before, would like me. Not many people at my school do. Heck, most of em are freaked out by me. What's so hard to understand about someone who likes swordfighting? They all think I'm insane, meh heh. They might pick on me sometimes, but after I told them I only fight in deathmatches (which isn't true, of course) they've left me alone. Heh.
7. Deep personality, someone who can be talked to, and you can pour your heart out to. I doubt I'd ever do that, as I'm a bit reclusive with my feelings, but it would be nice.

Anyway...that's all I can think of, at any rate. I'll edit or repost if I think of any more...

[TheMelodyMaker]

I'll accept anyone as she is*, as long as she loves the Lord more than (or at least as much as) I do.

*That's how our Lord sees us; He loves us as we are. ^__^

[Lochaber Axe]

Well, what I am looking for I guess is this:

1. Can stand me (I have two moods: annoying and silent. Annoying is how it sounds, I put foot in mouth and say something stupid or corny whenever I talk. Silent is when I clamp my mouth shut and just stare, sometimes nod my head when someone says hello. Because of this, people make jokes that I am a homicidal manic. At least, I hope they are joking...)

2. Reasonably tall (I am tired of having to almost bend over to talk with some girls. I am very tall. This shouldn't be a problem later however when I do find that right girl.)

3. Smart and independent (She must be intelligent to the point in which we can talk about anything. Also I don't want a house wife, if God wills me to be a writer than he will have to provide the suitable bread winner. It doesn't bother me at all if she makes more money than me. Actually I hope for that, well as long as I can at least keep some pocket change )

That is about it. The specifics will arrive with her.

[Link Antilles]

Wow, funny this should come up now. I've been gone for the past two days.... praying, reflecting, and praying about my relationship with God, things I wish to improve about my personality, and my feelings to this girl. It's been an emotionally draining week and add to the fact school has just started too. So, right now I'm not entirely sure about what I’m look for... well, I do have guidelines... which is similar...or the same to some….

1. Christian
2. We enjoy each other’s company and get along
3. Trust - it's one of the hardest things for me to trust people

Yeah, I'd like to find one who has the sweet, cute face and cares about her physical condition. The cute face is definitely my weakness sometimes..... interesting for me it's not about lust at all, unlike most guys. I just like the cute face, it gives me this peace. Yeah, a few years ago, I was the typical guy. I learned the hard emotional way it's not about lust. It's a long heartbreaking story, which I feel never to relive or tell at this time, but it changed me and my mindset and I'm glad of it. I'm just weird, I guess. Maybe, I'm not making sense. Anyways, that's all I have to say about this right now.......


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[Mr. Rogers]

hmmmm.... for me some important things would be:

1) a Christian - and someone who lives it and not just says it. none of us are perfect and can live completely like we should, but some people don't even try.
2) trustworthy - gotta be able to trust each other.
3) someone who will love me unconditionally no matter what.
4) someone who i can talk w/ and pour my heart out to.
5) at least some similiar interests would be good.
6) put God above all, even above me.
7) is loving and cares for others.
8) good looking would be nice, but i guess it's not top priority.
9) someone who can help me w/ my weaknesses.
10) someone who i can be best friends w/ and be myself around, there is more to marriage than just the romance part of it.

so there you have it, my top 10 things i'm looking for in a girl.

[uc pseudonym]

You take me too literally, anonymous.

A word about everyone who listed looks (and I paint with a broad brush). Such a transient trait. Look at pictures of your parents years ago... most of the time they look incredibly different. Some couples I know have four or five different phases, during each of which their appearances totally change. Think about it honestly... your body starts going downhill (in an overall sense) at about age 40. Assuming you intend to live a while, you could spend two thirds of your life with your spouse deteriorating, every day becoming less than you once were, leading up toward inevitable death. Most people lose their looks quickly, even faster if the other person has youthful standards (as most youth today do). The merest fraction of anyone's marraige will be with a person who looks the same as they did on the day of marraige... excepting movie stars, who divorce people every lunch break or so.