Off topic for just a second, I promise.
About the name/gender thing....yeah, I understand that as well. Apparhently only in America is Ashley a typically female name; I've had Brit friends tell me their best guy bud is Ashley. Oh, and Gone with the Wind freaked me out seriously as a little kid; I couldn't figure out whether I had a guy's name, Ashley Wilkes had a girl's name...or what the heck was going on. *flips switch off* okay, carry on.