Postby MrKrillz0r » Sun Jan 23, 2011 4:37 am
Thanks so much for praying for me!
I would like you to pray for my girlfriend as well, she is not a christian and she had a lot of problems in her life which I don't know that much about really. All I know is that he parents got divorced for a few years ago and I think she still haven't gotten over it. And that she used to party and drink a lot (She is 16) before she started to hang out with me and my friends.
Anyway, last time I visited her she seemed so sad that I asked if something was wrong, and she told me that she felt really down because of stuff that happened in her past. She didn't want to tell me what it was, and she told me she was going to start seeing the counselor again. She had apparently been fine for a while and thought she had overcome whatever it was that happened, but she hadn't. And she said to me that the only one that could fix this was herself, which I think is part of the problem.
I don't know what happened, and I don't know how to get her to open up for me. All I do know is that what she needs it not a counselor, what she needs is Jesus.
Warning: MATURE STUFF! (If you wouldn't read the mature prayer topics don't read this.)
On side of this I am struggling with my faith and the relationship, I told her that sex was out of the picture and she accepted it. But still we are sexually active, and as lost as I might be on this topic I think that all the sexual stuff was made for the marriage?..
So I feel so guilty and worthless, and I cannot count how many times I thought about breaking up because of this.
But still I can't force myself to do that, I know that it would make her feel even worse than she is right now. And I love her a lot as well, but I love Jesus more and I'm ready to do whatever it takes to fix this, I just don't know how. I would really like to talk with someone who got experience with stuff like this but I'm to scared to talk with someone IRL..
The conclusion I've come up to is that what I should do is probably to tell her that we cannot be sexually active at all, but I feel like a big loser to first say that sex is out of the picture, and then changing my mind telling her that I cannot be sexually active at all. I know this will most likely make it even harder for her though, because she will fear that we'll grow apart more and more.
This is just a big mess and I'm not really good at explaining this, but anyway, please pray for both her and our relationship.