I need prayer.

[Destroyer2000]

I'm in a very tough place. My girlfriend of close to three years and I just broke up...four months ago. It just recently sank in. I'm...totally devastated. I'm almost numb to the pain, but it hurts so, so much...I just can't imagine going on without her. I know in my head that God has a plan for it, but in my heart I don't feel it. I just want her back, and I want to fix things, and I don't know...I just need prayer.

[Atria35]

Praying God helps you find direction.

[SailorDove]

Dear Jesus,

Please comfort Destroyer2000 and heal his heart. As it is written, "Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted." Please have your hand on both of their lives and let your will be done.

In your name we pray,
Amen.

[ABlipinTime]

It will be okay man.

I'll be praying for you!

Take this time to improve your relationship with God. He will never disappoint!

[Mr. SmartyPants]

"Christ is with you. Do not abandon Him and He will not abandon you. You will see great sorrow, and in that sorrow you will be happy. This is my last message to you: in sorrow seek happiness."
-The Brothers Karamazov

Suffering is rough. I know. But you have the option to also embrace your suffering and find the intrinsic beauty in it. Suffering is what makes us human. It is what gives us the opportunity to truly be the embodiment of love. Not actions of selfishness where we behave for only our own gain, but so that we live for others.

It isn't the easy and normal times which show our true character. It is times of suffering.

"People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within."
-Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

So go on. Become beautiful. Let yourself grow into something you've never been before. Life sucks and is like hell. I know. I've been there. And to selflessly love your neighbor is to put yourself in a place of total emotional vulnerability. But it's moments like these by which we grow into something we never anticipate: a beautiful person.

"The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen."
-Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

I know I'm pulling all these quotes, but this is where I get my ideas from. Nonetheless, embrace your finiteness and embrace God as your crutch. Find people for a shoulder to cry on. You'll need it and you'll be hurting for a long time. But with hurts comes healing and growth. Just don't make the mistake of seeing God as a pure liberator. As much as you want it God will not deliver you from pain. You will have scars and you will have them forever. But it is your scars which make you beautiful. They represent your immense suffering, growth, and eventual redemption. Just make sure to live selflessly through all of it.

“Christian hope does not promise successful days to the rich and the strong, but resurrection and life to those who must exist in the shadows of death."
-Jürgen Moltmann

As a friend of mine once said, "happiness is an attitude of the soul, and can be found in even in discontentment."

Continue to selflessly love. Never cease that and there you will begin to find your healing.

"Where there is ruin, there is hope for treasure."
-Jalāl ad-Dīn Rumi

[Destroyer2000]

Thank you, everyone. And MSP, that was immensely helpful. This morning has been better...the first night is always the hardest, I think. I'm doing my best not to think about it, and to bury myself in the Lord. He has a plan, even if I don't understand it. I just have to trust Him to carry it through. And I know He won't remove the pain, but will instead provide a place for me to lean on, someone who will help me. I've got faith that things will be okay.

[Mr. SmartyPants]

To be purged means you have to face what hurts the most. Again, there is a therapeutic nature to pain, but only if you choose to let it.

And of course, you're in my prayers. I can empathize for your situation.

[Destroyer2000]

My greatest fear of the situation, though, is that she will do something stupid. I shouldn't worry about it, but she was always sheltered by her parents. Through me, she found that there was way more to the world than she previously thought, and found the pleasure is kissing. Admittedly, we probably took things a bit further than we should have on occasion...now I'm afraid that she will throw away her virginity with some guy that won't control himself. I know she would regret it if she did, but she isn't so sure, and it terrifies me. I would be completely devastated if that happened, and I do not know how to handle that sort of fear.

[Atria35]

If it happens, it happens. It is her body and her life, and her relationship with God. Be it sex or drugs or drinking, everyone does things that they regret and can't change.

But she will not become less of a person for it.

While you can advise against it and give reason why, and if something does end up happening, be there for her.

But I do have to ask- why are you afraid of her doing this?

[ABlipinTime]

I understand, even though I've never been in that situation myself. Glad to see you care for her.
I'll keep praying.

[Destroyer2000]

Thank you for the prayers, you all. I'm coming to terms with the breakup...now, I'm simply scared to death of what is happening with her. Going to parties and such, it's so unlike her. I don't recognize her as the person I used to know...and yet, I still long for her. It's odd, isn't it? I know, intellectually, that it isn't what I need...but yet my heart still wants that, wants to hold to the old memories of such joy and happiness. And it is alright to hold to the memories, even those painful ones; because of those events, I am who I am. Yet it hurts to remember them, when she doesn't seem to be the same person. I undoubtedly love her; perhaps not in the romantic way, but as another person, I do. I don't want to see her making mistakes that could cost her dearly...I know that isn't who she once was. I don't want to see her give away something that will cost her in a marriage further down the line. So I ask you; continue to pray for her, and for me. For her to see the light, to realize that going to parties and drinking isn't "fun," it's pointless. To realize what path she is on before she makes an unchangeable mistake. And for me, for the pain to ease, to trust the Lord to hold me, and to be able to accept her, no matter what happens, without pain, as a friend. Thank you.

[ABlipinTime]

I haven't forgotten, and God certainly won't. You two are in his hands, bud. God bless! Still praying for ya!

[Dr.Faust]

praying man

[Kunoichi]

Destroyer, I never posted but I'm still praying!

[freerock1]

Lifting you up my brother. (I don't always been replying to the prayer request threads, but I haven't forgotten.)

[bkilbour]

Dude, I went through the same thing to a T.
Had the same pain, same heartbreak, I was engaged to the girl, but she left me for another guy.
But I gotta tell you, man - God heals in miraculous ways. And even if the heartbreak stays a little, you're going to be a tougher, more mature man out of it; such was my case.
I am glad that God got you out of it before she started getting you into the same kind of behaviour; my ex is doing the same thing right now, but sleeping with the guy, too.
And I'm still a virgin. Something good will come out of it for me, but not for her, you know?

I will pray for your healing, brother.

[steenajack]

I'll be praying! *hugs* I've been through heartbreak before, and it's hard. I know what it's like. Just whatever you do, don't give up. Also another thing, don't give up on love (or feeling for someone again.) Take your time, but don't give up on feeling. If God leads you down the line to another person, don't be closed to embracing that. Y'know? But again, take your time. It's okay to be sad for a bit, but don't stay there too long. Keep on living life to the fullest. Cause life is worth living, and love is worth embracing.

Also, I'll be praying for the girl as well. She's on her path, I'd say be there and pray for her, but also trust God with her. Let God take care of her now, cause she is in His hands. I know it's not easy to do...but, just do as God leads you to do with her, not forcing anything. Give her over to God though, and let Him take care of her now. I know it'll be hard...but I repeat, don't give up no matter how hard it gets.

And like others have said, God can take a bad thing and make something good come out of it. You may have scars from this, but you'll be stronger now. Embrace the lessons you've learned from this experience. Learn what you can from this. It's like a mountain climb: It's hard and painful at first, but once you reach the top the view is always worth it. *hugs*

Again buddy, I'll be praying for you.

[Makachop^^128]

Will be praying ><

[Sanji07]

I will certainly pray for you. God is in control. ^^