What about the "best friend," you ask? I was getting to that: settle down. This kid moved to Clarke County from Florida in 7th grade. He was introduced to me through one of my other friends, and it happened that we shared many common interests (cards, anime, video games, etc.). After a brief period of infrequent interaction, we became good friends, and we were more or less over at each other's homes every weekend. Those were undoubtedly some of the best times of my life. We would often sit in front of his parents' big screen tv, playing games for hours, or watching anime with his little brothers (great kids). When we weren't hanging out, we would be talking on the phone for inordinate lengths of time. For someone who is as introverted and reserved as me, this was remarkable.
There were also two life-changing events unrelated to school that occurred while I was in middle school: my parents divorced, and I accepted Jesus as my savior.
One night, I heard my parents fighting (verbally) downstairs after I had gone to bed. Then, in tears, I heard my mother say something that I will never forget: "That's it. I'm leaving." That was the end of my parents' 12-year marriage. The next saturday, my dad set my sister and I down on the living room couch, and confirmed that they were indeed getting a divorce. This was the beginning of a long and painful process that continues to this day. Ironically, it was my dad, not my mom, who moved 30 minutes away, although I am thankful for this fact. My mom kept (or rather, bought from my father) our current house, so I spent the majority of my time there. My parents had joint custody, so I would spend several days with my mom, followed by half as many spent with my father in the town of Winchester. The constant moving around was a tremendous hassle (to say the least). I feel sorry for my sister, who still has to deal with it.
I feel I should say more about my sister (aren't I self-absorbed, leaving this until now). She was born in 1988, when I was 3 (and a half, thank you
). I don't recall any feelings of resentment created by my parents attention given to the new baby, but it is possible that such feelings existed. Since we live in the same environment, it is not surprising that we have very similar personalities (although she is somewhat more extroverted). This led to a lively sibling rivalry that was expressed through fighting, arguing, and academic competition. In retrospect, I wish I had been nicer to my sister, but I think we still share a special relationship.
Now for my "testimony" (although all of this could accurately be described as a testimony). One day after church, my grandfather asked me if I was ready to be saved. He hinted that he wanted see me saved before he died, so I was given a powerful sense of urgency about the whole process (thankfully he is still alive). About a month later, I talked to the paster, and told him that I wanted to be saved. The next week, I made a public confession of faith before the congregation, and soon after I was baptized by immersion. This happened during the spring, in my 13th year of life. This was an obviously an important spiritual step, but I would not fully give my life to Christ for a few years.
High school was, on the whole, uneventful. I continued to read, excelled in almost all of my classes, and my life continued to develop according to the major events that occurred during middle school. I grew more accustomed to switching houses, I remained best friends with JD (that is his nickname...I think it is ok to give that), and I went to church. However (I realize that I use that word too much, but bear with me), I will take the time to mention a few key events.
First, I gave my life fully to Christ. Just before the start of my sophomore year, I got down on my knees in my room, and prayed to God more fervently than ever before. For some reason, I can't remember exactly what I prayed for, but I do know that I consider this to be my official moment of salvation. It was at this point that I began to study the bible, theology, and philosophy for the first time. I read the bible through in under a year, and read numerous Christian books. I also began to express my views with confidence in school, particularly in my IB Theory of Knowledge class, which was essentially a philosophical discussion class.
Next, my best friend JD moved away. After sophomore year, his father got a new job in southern VA, so he had to move. This was a rough time, and after this I began to develop a deeper friendship with the friend who had been my elementary school rival. Of course, I had other friends, but they were not nearly as close as these two individuals. We still talk and visit each other occasionally, and there is a chance (please pray for this!) that he will be moving back to Northern Virginia this winter.
The last major event of high school was my introduction to dating. Most people consider me to be an attractive young man (if I do say so myself
), so I go a fair amount of attention from the opposite sex. None of these relationships worked out, and most were disasters. This was especially difficult, becase I was obsessed with dating at the time, to the detriment of my relationship with God. Almost every night I pray, no, demand that God send me the perfect person. When this didn't happen, I became very discouraged. Thankfully I am more mature now, but I caused myself a great deal of unnecessary pain as a result of this desire. I now realize that God will lead me to the right woman at the right time; I only hope I am ready when it finally happens.
The last event that I will share is the process that led me to the University of Virginia. As I said way back at the beginning of this "brief" history, both of my parents went to UVA, so it was a logical choice for me. Honestly, I didn't care where I went, as long as it was a "good" school academically, preferrably in-state. I applied through early decision, gained admission, and didn't have to apply anywhere else.
Now, I am nearing the end of my first semester at UVA, writing the end of this bio for you, the fine people of the CAA. There is a lot more that I could have mentioned, but I will be merciful.
Thanks in advance to those who take the time to read this!