prayer and advice

[Hitomi]

Well, I haven't been on here in mouths ( stupid pasword thing) but those mouths have been really hard and seemed to get wores after my 21thname birthday which was last sepmetb. To start off with this. Is my mother. She keeps controlling me like im some stupid little girl who is to naive to understand anything that is told to me and I know for one it does take me a little while longer to get something but im almost out that and I have been thinking alot.

Im still living in my mother's house I even pay rent of $400 for room, food, use of my mom's car and my phone( I hardly use my mother's car and my mother's mother says my phone is $100 which I don't think it is) and I do chores.

*sighs* I really hate how my mother is always hitting me down about me and my phone and says how it does nothing for this family. I use my phone to go up on the web and I don't play games on it hardly ever. She gets so angey with me because im texting my friends threw skype on my phone. I talk to most all of my friends threw my phone since I don't have any in my town well maybe some but they dnt care for me and when I try to set something up with a friend in my town, they lie about it and say they can't. ( I think I have only 1 friend in the town I live) and to top something else on, im shy as heck kind of person so making friends in pperson is hard, its ether, im not taken seriouly, I scare them off, or they think im some girl way younger then them cuz of my looks


Today my mother threated to shut off my phone, but I pqy for everything on my phone she has no right to shut off my phone when I pay for it and im a adult. I keep trrying to move out but then something happens and I can't I feel so trapped and chained to my mother andd im depressed but I hide that iam. I only find myself really happy is when I don't have my mother breathing down my back like somee kind of monster.

[seaglass27]

Sounds like it may be time to move out.

[ABlipinTime]

Pray. Maybe God is trying to teach you patience. One day, hopefully, you and your mother's relationship will improve. I can hear arguments up in my head: one is a depiction analogous of your current situation, and another is me, myself, and I going "Does anyone ever listen to this advice?" "Does it ever work?" Well, God put family in our lives for a reason. It took moving away from home and going to college for my relationships with my family to improve, but since I have, I feel great visiting home. I have an understanding, albeit basic one, of your situation, so I'll definitely be praying for ya! Hope everything works out between you and your mom! Stick together, act mature - don't snipe back / don't fight fire with fire / "turn the other cheek". Same age old advice: now you get to see if it works - or if NOT following it works. Good luck, and God bless!

[Atria35]

Praying. I'm actually also of the opinion that you should move- this behaviour is bordering on abusive, and that can cause a whole lot of issues. Look for many places to go, check them all out, and have back-up plans. Family is nice, but at a certain point, there needs to be a certain amount of space.

[Yuki-Anne]

If she makes you pay rent, she's basically not being your mother, but your landlord. You might as well find a place where you can at least be free.

I love my family but moving out on my own was one of the best things I ever could have done. You grow up so much being on your own.

[Hiryu]

If you can pay your mother when the bills arrive, you can probably move out.

I don't know anything about your mom, so this may not sound like good advice: Have you tried to communicate with her about your feelings? What are the reasons she treats you like this and wants to shut off the phone, even though you're 21 and have been paying for it? If you want to pay "$100" for some phone, why should she complain? There shouldn't be any skin off her nose about it.

You could ask to see the bill for the phone to ensure that you're paying just for the phone.

Do you have any plans for college?