CAA: Christian Anime Alliance

Hey everyone,

For along time I've had a problem of looking at other girls and getting really jealous soooooo easily. It would be over things like their body, hair, clothes, the way they do their makeup, how they attract boys, etc. I'm not very popular either and that made me feel like no one liked me. I also am not a person who boys typically want to come around and start flirting with me unlike other girls who I know who get boys to like them so easily. It made me feel like I was hideous and the most ungodly sight ever. I'd look at other girls who I knew who had boyfriends and get REAAAAAAAAAAAALLY jealous.

I took this up with God and told Him I don't want to be an envious pig anymore. I've gotten so much better.

Please pray that I still have this strength. I've gotten better but it's still really hard not looking at everyone else. One thing that has helped me was focus vertically instead of horizontally.

I know a few girls (including myself) that have that problem. A few books that you could try to get your hands on:

Girlfriend, you are a B.A.B.E.
The Lies Women Tell Themselves

Both are written by Christians, and have very good things to help with self-esteem. One of my friends was so impressed with Girlfriend, she led a study group on it with girls from her church.

Will be praying. I saw your picture in the post your picture thread, and you look gorgeous! You don't need to worry about appearances. And besides, you just have to wait for the right boy to come to you. It's not the quantity of guys, its the quality of a guy.

Prayed! BTW guys should go for what is inside. If all they care about is how little you are wearing or how long and prettyful your hair is, they're not worth your time.

like Sapphire said, quality over quantity. You don't want to be attracting everyone, 'cause that brings in both good people and not so good people.

I suppose this isn't a great time to bring up the fact that beauty is subjective, at least for the most part.

For what it's worth, back in highschool I hated that whole "popular/good-looking kid" scene. All those jerks made me nauseous. Don't aspire to be like them. I mean you're already good-looking and there's nothing wrong with that, but they're not the type of people to be jealous of.