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Big trouble at my house...

PostPosted: Thu Jan 07, 2010 9:57 pm
by Robin Firedrake
First off, I know I haven't been here lately... my brain doesn't work. But, I need help... Tonight, after I got off the computer, I got into an argument with mum. I really disagreed with one part (She said I had no right to be angry in any way until I turn 18) so I left for my room. My dad came after me, yelling for me to come back. When I refused to leave my room, he got really angry. Finally, he said he'd drag me out if I didn't come with him. Being angry, I refused to come... That's when he and I got into a physical fight. I was able to resist most of the stuff he did, and nearly eveen made it to my room... Then he kicked my legs out from under me and sat on me. By this point, people had started to take notice. My mom and older sister yelled at him a lot, so he put all his weight on me at once, before standing up and stomping off, griping. I ran to my room and layed down on my bed as fast as I could. Then, mum opened the door. I thought it was to comfort me. Instead, the first words out of her mouth were "You are completely, utterly, totally, and in every way, in the wrong!" and it only got worse from there. Later on, I heard my mom talking to my older sister about devorce. I know I'm being whiny, and that my older sister will probably see this but... I need prayer guys. Please. I probably won't be able to post more, seeing as this message only got out cause my parents momentarily forgot about the web browser on my DSi... Just, pray for me.

PostPosted: Thu Jan 07, 2010 10:14 pm
by Tsukuyomi
I'll definitely play ^__^

Family disputes are never easy 8( I can't say if you're right or wrong due to lack of detail, but that's totally understandable on your end, so no pressure ^^

The best thing to do is pray that things get better 8( Divorce is never easy either. Especially, on the kids involved 8( Do you by any chance know what all of that is about? You don't have to say, but you should try talking to your parents if it's something too drastic ^__^

Keep us updated if able ^_^

PostPosted: Fri Jan 08, 2010 6:40 am
by TheSubtleDoctor
Your story struck a blow to my heart. Know that I am praying for you in my personal prayer time and remembering you at Mass. I am so sorry that you are going through any of this. In no way are you being whiny! Asking for help is not whining, nor is it wrong. I hope you do not get upset @ me for saying this but: Without knowing anything about what you did or did not do, I can say with 100% certainty that your father was in the wrong. No matter what their child does, parents CANNOT do what your dad did. Period. Nothing justifies that kind of abuse (yup, abuse) of your own child. Your mother did not handle things responsibly either. A parent is supposed to protect their child...I am truly saddened by both of their actions. I pray that you do not have to go through the pain of divorce. I encourage you to get some help, whether its calling or visiting a counselor, pastor or even a trusted family member outside of the situation. Talking to a Christian counselor face to face would be the best thing, since they could give you specififc advice about what you should do. Again, I am thinking and praying for you.

PostPosted: Fri Jan 08, 2010 10:29 am
by ShiroiHikari
I'm with TheSubtleDoctor-- no parent has the right to treat their child that way, NO MATTER WHAT, even if you disobeyed or disrespected them. Physical abuse is wrong.

For that matter, what your mother said to you is wrong too. Children have just as much a right to be angry as adults do. Children have feelings too. In fact, it really makes ME angry when adults forget that. Don't let people tell you that anger is wrong-- it's perfectly healthy. What can make it unhealthy is the way you choose to deal with it.

If anything like that happens again, I encourage you to either call the police or get in touch with someone at church. You do not deserve that kind of treatment.

Also, I hate to be pessimistic, but most of the time when couples start talking about divorce, then it is already too late. I don't like divorce, but sometimes that's the way it goes.

Lord, I don't really know Robin Firedrake and may have even been snide to him in the past, and for that I'm sorry. I come to You to ask You to be by his side right now, to protect him and see him through this difficult time. I ask you to be with his parents too, to help them see that they've hurt their son in their anger. But above all, I pray that the situation goes according to Your will, which is good and holy. Amen.

PostPosted: Fri Jan 08, 2010 11:04 am
by K. Ayato
I'll be praying. I don't understand why your parents would insist you not have a right to be angry until 18. That just doesn't make any sense. You are a human being and have a right to feel a wide range of emotions at ANY age, including anger. I applaud you for not wanting to get into a fight. That took a lot of guts. It tears at me inside to read what they have done, and I do hope it doesn't get worse. I agree with what others here have said and seek advice from a pastor or someone at church. Something needs to be done and whatever takes place, you won't be able to do it alone. The Lord will see you through. Keep holding onto Him. I'll be praying. *Hugs* Hang in there.

PostPosted: Sat Jan 09, 2010 11:17 am
by TGJesusfreak
You are not, in any way being whiny. You have as much right to be angry as anyone else. I'll pray for you and your family.

PostPosted: Sat Jan 09, 2010 12:05 pm
by Jingo Jaden
Went from bad to worse I see. Well, I will be praying that things start to look better for the entire family soon enough.

PostPosted: Sat Jan 09, 2010 4:01 pm
by Ante Bellum
Wow, yeah, that really sounds bad. I'll be praying for you and your family!