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A friend

PostPosted: Tue Aug 26, 2008 7:18 pm
by Aedin
I have a friend, her name's Hannah, she's going through the same thing as me, problems with people, and relationships just don't happen for her. She's getting discouraged with people and herself and life, just like things are with me (and no, we won't be dating) and I've been trying to talk to her and help her feel better, help her realize how things might be better for her without a relationship, but I don't think I'm enough. So if everyone could pray for God to help her out, and just bring her peace, and if people could help give examples (it doesn't matter if they're all hypothetical) of how a relationship might not be a good idea (she's around my age) that would be really great. I love her and I just want her to be ok again.

PostPosted: Tue Aug 26, 2008 7:47 pm
by Tsukuyomi
She has my prayers ^ ^

What do you mean as in "relationship" exactly o.o? If by that you mean "friendship" then, that's all good. You should never jump right into a relationship without knowing "said" person o.o

I'm assuming she goes to the same college as you, right? I still say saying "hi" or "hello" is a good start. Even if not a lot of students do that there o.o If no one ever said hi to each other, how would friendships even start o.o? In the hallways or in a classroom, you can always say hi to someone ^ ^

PostPosted: Tue Aug 26, 2008 8:09 pm
by Aedin
Um, first off, I said she and I won't be dating. And I think with her it's friendships and other relationships.

PostPosted: Tue Aug 26, 2008 8:17 pm
by Tsukuyomi
Ah, I actually meant with others ^^ I wasn't really sure if she was looking for a straight off "relationship" or a "friendship" ^ ^; My bad ^^

My advice to the both of you (since you said you guys were in the same boat), is to just put yourselves out there ^^ It doesn't have to be something "WAY" out there, but start greeting people as you see them ^ ^ Let them know you're there and would like to be friends ^ ^

PostPosted: Tue Aug 26, 2008 9:02 pm
by Kunoichi
Well i can only give you my experience..

when i dated just to date...it turned out to harm me rather than help me. I thought I knew the person I was dating but i was blinded with just wanting to be in a relationship instead of seeing the warning signs. He drained my bank account, my self esteem and raped me three times. So sometimes a relationship, unless you can really see that person for who they are, is not recommended.

In my opinion, if she is not really "ready" for a relationship even tho she "wants" one is not always best. Tell her to focus on loving herself, learning how to do that so she can be ready for the right relationship when it comes in God's timing.

Heavenly Father,

I pray for hannah. lord you know what sh eis going thorugh, please me with her, please help her and help Aedin. Father we give you honor praise and glory. In Jesus' name,

Amen