Situation at Work

[Sheenar]

Something happened at work today that was very upsetting. I can't really talk about it --but one of the staff members was abruptly told to resign -- I really don't like how it was handled --and now me and another staff member are left to try to figure out what to do. We just feel so lost now and summer school starts next week -- so the students will be coming and probably asking where the resigned staff member is...
And though what happened was unfair, I can't talk about it or tell the person responsible that it's unfair. It's not my place. I have to just shut my mouth and do my job.
This is all just so upsetting. The person that was forced to resign was someone I really liked a lot...
I just don't get it. Why is so much happening now? Can't God just space it out a little?
I know we'll survive at the office -- I'm just worried about how we'll manage without this person -- I just hope the students aren't negatively affected...

Side note: Just wondering (those of you already with "real world jobs"): How do you guys deal with office drama/politics? I just don't like being caught in the middle -- I just try to do what I'm told, don't question, and keep my composure. What do you guys think?

[Prince Asbel]

That's really too bad that bad things seem to keep happening to you. You, your friend, and even the students are in my prayers.

[freerock1]

Lifting you up, my sister, for peace and for wisdom, as well as the person who lost their job.

And I can relate with the office drama. Thankfully I have a job where, most of the time, I can more or less withdraw from the drama and sort of take refuge in my office. Of course sometimes I get pulled into it, not of my own free will. It sounds like you're largely in the same boat.

[Kunoichi]

Unfortunately Sheenar my office wasn't where fairness or really communication was heard. However, I will be praying for you.

[ChristianKitsune]

Definately praying for ya!

What do you mean by "Real world Jobs?" O_o

Well, I was recently laid off because my school lacked the funds necassary to keep the students working, it was really sudden, and in my opinion totally unfair.

But I believe that God has a reason for everything, who knows? Maybe the person who resigned has a better job instore for them... Maybe God has a better plan than what we can see right now.

That's how I picture setbacks... It's only a setback if you wallow in it. Praise God for the time you shared with your co-worker, and pray for the next person to fill their place.

When we accepted Christ, we never signed a waiver that said life was going to be a bed of roses. But we can rely on a God who really loves us and wants to take care of us. Bad things happen, but God will never leave us, nor forsake us!

*hugs* Things will be okay!

[Mithrandir]

Boy can I really relate to this one. Working in the field of education, I've seen similar (though not this specific) drama unfold. In all cases, the institution will live on; it's not like one person (except a truly malicious executive team) can bring down the whole ship. While a few students may be inconvenienced, it's unlikely that a large group are forever scarred. (I'm not trying to downplay things that happened to me - or this - I'm just hoping to put it in perspective). But it's no fun at all. In the cases I've seen, I've found it very helpful to be able to talk with people outside the office.

If you're like me, though, be careful not to cross the line from humorous exaggeration into slander. Oh, and "talking about it at work" isn't a good idea, in my experience. Personality conflicts are a part of the work world, and knowing how to deal with them is invaluable. My best advice would be to learn from the resignation requester. Learn how not to handle situations like this.

Also, know we'll be praying for you!

[Sheenar]

Thanks guys. I know it will all work out --it's just a very frustrating situation.

Mith, what do you mean by "humorous exaggeration"? I know what slander is --and I definitely won't be bad-mouthing anyone at the office. I know what kind of very bad things that can lead to.

Thank you all for your prayers.

[12praiseGOD]

praying!

[Sheenar]

Please pray for us today...it's definitely going to be tough...summer school starts tomorrow and the students will be here (and probably wondering where the "resigned" staff member is). And I don't know the inner workings of the program (I'm the student assistant for the now former program coordinator). So I'm not sure how we're going to run things, get the placement tests done (to determine what level the students will be in), or have enough teachers for the students (the coordinator was going to teach because we are short of teachers in the summer).
I know somehow it will all fall together -- it's just very stressful. This was a very, very bad time to ask her to resign. And I don't think she deserved to be terminated...she was greatly loved by the students and did an excellent job.

Please, please pray for us today. The only possible way we'll be able to do anything is through God's strength and a miracle...

[Prince Asbel]

I hope you get through this alright.

[12praiseGOD]

still praying!

[Sheenar]

I found out some things today about the situation...it makes it even more upsetting. Apparently this had been planned for a while...
I really want to quit. There's a pretty tense aura at work...but..
1. I don't want to leave one of the staff members there to deal with the conspiring people by herself.
2. If I don't work, I don't eat or pay bills.
3. It really is a good job, and it's something I can do well.
4. The students. I don't want the students to suffer because of all this crap.

So I'm going to stick around, keep my mouth shut (though it's hard --I really would love to say some things to certain people involved...) and do my work so we can keep the program running for the students' sake.

I just hate all this drama. It's like these people aren't even acting like adults. They all (except for the one staff member I mentioned) ganged up against the coordinator...it's not fair. And now they're just changing a whole lot of things...I must say (because of the way things were done) that I've lost a bit of my respect for these people...they aren't acting honorably at all. But I'm at the bottom of the totem pole, so I just have to put on an act and be polite, do as I'm told, and keep my opinions/feelings to myself. (Though the one staff member and myself both feel the same, so we've shared our feelings with each other --it helps to have someone on the same side as me--so I don't feel completely without a support system at work).

So please continue to be in prayer for my office...it's all so overwhelming.

But on the good side: I get to go on a trip Saturday with some of the international students to play black light mini-golf and eat at a restaurant where they throw the rolls at you. It's the students that really keep me at my job and bring joy to my work. I thank God for them!

[Sheenar]

I didn't want to make another thread, so I'll post another prayer request here.

I've been having stomach problems for quite some time --and I'm in the process of applying for a local program to cover the cost of having some tests run.

I hope I qualify for it so I can go to the hospital clinic and have the tests run to figure out what's wrong. I should get the paperwork this week to fill out.

I'm really concerned...not just because of the pain or the full feeling in my stomach (or food making me feel sick) but mostly because (you may not want to read if you are grossed out easily) [spoiler] for the past month and a half --every time I go to the bathroom, there's blood [/spoiler]

I'm still on here because I tried to go to sleep but my stomach is hurting so badly I can't sleep. This is new. It's hurt before, but usually I can still sleep. I hope I can sleep soon...I have class at 8:00 (which means I need to be up at 6:00).

I would really appreciate your prayers. Thank you guys for being there for me and being so supportive -- though it seems all I do is complain. You all are such a blessing to me.

[Prince Asbel]

Scribbles it down* Alright. I pray that you recover from this illness soon.