How can I be a good witness?

[K. Ayato]

Hey, guys. I could use some advice and encouragement. Some time ago, I posted a prayer thread for my friend Nina. I could use some prayers and encouragement in how to continue to be her friend and a good Christian testimony. She claims to be saved, but it's still hard to get to speak to her as a good friend and sister in Christ.

For one, Nina's gone through a lot of hardship in her life, some of it recent. I don't know all of it, but I picked up the possibility that it might've affected how she views others and their feelings towards her. Almost seems to me that she doubts someone's love, even mine as a friend.

Tied into that is her argument that I don't know what she's gone through or what kind of person she is. It's true that I don't, but that doesn't mean that I'm not a fellow human being, let alone a girl. She refuses to believe that I might know how she feels on certain things, primarily the death of a loved one. She lost her dad about 2 years ago, and is still feeling the loss. While I've not watched someone I loved dearly slip away into eternity before my eyes, the loss and the pain was still the same. When I said this to her, Nina became very upset and told me "Stop saying 'I know how you feel', 'cause you DON'T!".

She's quick to say I don't know her, but she misreads what I try to discuss with her and cleverly ends up trying to use it against me. Just this evening we were talking online and I started saying in a non-threatening way that she should try to take other people's feelings into account before she speaks what's on her mind (after hearing from her that she doesn't). Nina more or less flew into a rage and claimed I was pushing her to change who she was. And then when I said to her that if she was a Christian, that it'd affect every area of her life, she argued that I was questioning her "religion". I wasn't.

I want to continue being her friend, even if more of this stuff crops up. I admit that there have been times when I wanted to just throw my hands up in defeat, seeing she's harder than flint, but at the same time, I don't think that's a good idea. Nina needs to know what a real friend is, but I'm running out of ways to reach out to her. Please pray for her, and for me. Any tips or verses of Scripture would be an extreme help. Thanks again.

[Warrior 4 Jesus]

Sure thing mate, I'll pray for you and Nina.
God Bless!

[K. Ayato]

Thanks. It'll take a lot of prayers on our part to break down the wall she's built around her heart.

[Tenshi no Ai]

Praying... Nothing's impossible...

[K. Ayato]

Amen to that.